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Sober
how clear-headed you need to be.
A free guide from Mel
The Honest Cosleeping Guide
for the breastfeeding mamas who keep their babies close at night, a calm, practical way to set up cosleeping, built on Dr. James McKenna's Safe Sleep 7.
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A few of the questions you came in with
If You're Here, You've Already Wondered
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whether the cot in the corner is really being used.
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whether falling asleep mid-feed was a one-time thing.
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whether your partner has noticed the cot sitting empty.
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whether the advice you were given was written for your baby, or for a study from 1994.
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whether cosleeping itself is the risk, or cosleeping without a plan.
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whether anyone will give you a straight answer.
every one of those questions is fair. here's the framework, plain and kind.
The framework
The Safe Sleep 7
seven conditions. when they're all met together, the research suggests cosleeping with a breastfed baby carries a significantly reduced risk compared to cosleeping without a plan.
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Non-Smoker
the smoke question.
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Nursing
who this framework is for.
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Healthy Baby
when your baby is ready.
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On Back
how your baby starts the night.
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Safe Surface
where you can share.
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Not Too Warm
how cool the room runs.
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every condition explained, with what it looks like in your room
Inside the guide
The Chapters You'll Actually Read
just the framework, the reasoning behind it, and what to do at 2am, written so you can read it one-handed while you feed.
- why blanket "never cosleep" advice falls short, and what the research shows instead.
- the Safe Sleep 7 in plain language, with what each condition looks like in your room.
- the cuddle curl: why your body already knows it, and how to settle into it without thinking.
- your setup: bed height, mattress firmness, sheets, partners, pets, and what to take out.
Why I wrote this
I Wrote the Guide I Wish I'd Had
I'm a mama just like you, doing this for the first time and led by my intuition. when my son was born, every pediatric site I read said the same thing: never bedshare, full stop, and something deep in me quietly said no.
my son was already sleeping right beside me, like so many of our babies do. the warning was so loud it drowned out the other side of the story, the research on how breastfeeding mamas and their babies really sleep together at night.
so I gathered it all into one plain, practical guide, with the framework, the reasoning and the 2am things nobody mentions, and it's yours for free, because every mama deserves to have it.
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